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janice · 11-01-2007, 08:10 AM

I have a friend who just got married because she is pregnant.

Do you think you should get married because you are pregnant or you got someone pregnant?

kathy · 11-01-2007, 08:10 PM

I think it is better that u get married first then you get pregnant. For i believe that you should not go for kids until you are sure that the relationship is on a strong base. After all NO ONE likes the One Night Stand problems!!

Jewel · 11-01-2007, 08:44 PM

Unfortunately, not everybody has the choice of getting married before they are pregnant.

I don't think you need to be married to make a loving and safe home for a child though. Getting married solely because you have a child with somebody does not necessarily mean that you will be creating a happy home for a child to be raised in. I think you should get married because you want to get married, and because you are in love with somebody, not because you are having a baby.

leighdu · 12-13-2007, 02:10 PM

It happens many times that someone gets pregnant no matter how much protection is used. People always say in that case that people should wait until they are married, but no one is perfect, and besides, I think that you should know all the "goods" about your potential spouse before you take the vows. This is not the same era we are living in where were women are publicly shamed for having a child out of wedlock.

I think marriage is a great thing, but I don't necessarily think that women should marry just because they have gotten pregnant. If they truly love the person they are with and see that they would make a family union that will work, then I am 100% for marriage. Unfortunately it does not always work out that way.

jnjsarauer · 12-13-2007, 05:20 PM

I don't see an advantage unless you are committed to making the marriage work. Otherwise, the child gets used to having both parents, and when they split up this can be very difficult. People can be wonderful parents even if they aren't married to each other.

Forgive Darkness · 12-13-2007, 08:47 PM

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Originally Posted by janice

I have a friend who just got married because she is pregnant.

Do you think you should get married because you are pregnant or you got someone pregnant?

No I do not. I think you should get married for love. But if they were already deply in love and just happened to get pregnant then I have no problem with them getting married.

Nick · 12-16-2007, 01:47 AM

As Forgive Darkness said, marriage should be for love, not because you got pregnant. People should be more careful when it comes to pregnancy as you shouldn't have to marry someone you don't want to even if they have a child that is yours as well.

It's just to bad that many people get pregnant before they get married even when they don't want to.

So my opinion would be if you get pregnant only marry the other person if you truely love them.

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janice Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 285 Credits: 170	Pregnancy and Marriage I have a friend who just got married because she is pregnant. Do you think you should get married because you are pregnant or you got someone pregnant?

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11-01-2007, 08:10 PM	#2 (permalink)
kathy Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 24 Credits: 28	I think it is better that u get married first then you get pregnant. For i believe that you should not go for kids until you are sure that the relationship is on a strong base. After all NO ONE likes the One Night Stand problems!!

11-01-2007, 08:44 PM	#3 (permalink)
Jewel Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 207 Credits: 70	Unfortunately, not everybody has the choice of getting married before they are pregnant. I don't think you need to be married to make a loving and safe home for a child though. Getting married solely because you have a child with somebody does not necessarily mean that you will be creating a happy home for a child to be raised in. I think you should get married because you want to get married, and because you are in love with somebody, not because you are having a baby.

12-13-2007, 02:10 PM	#4 (permalink)
leighdu Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 100 Credits: 86	It happens many times that someone gets pregnant no matter how much protection is used. People always say in that case that people should wait until they are married, but no one is perfect, and besides, I think that you should know all the "goods" about your potential spouse before you take the vows. This is not the same era we are living in where were women are publicly shamed for having a child out of wedlock. I think marriage is a great thing, but I don't necessarily think that women should marry just because they have gotten pregnant. If they truly love the person they are with and see that they would make a family union that will work, then I am 100% for marriage. Unfortunately it does not always work out that way.

12-13-2007, 05:20 PM	#5 (permalink)
jnjsarauer Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 166 Credits: 71	I don't see an advantage unless you are committed to making the marriage work. Otherwise, the child gets used to having both parents, and when they split up this can be very difficult. People can be wonderful parents even if they aren't married to each other.

12-16-2007, 01:47 AM	#7 (permalink)
Nick Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 60 Credits: 122	As Forgive Darkness said, marriage should be for love, not because you got pregnant. People should be more careful when it comes to pregnancy as you shouldn't have to marry someone you don't want to even if they have a child that is yours as well. It's just to bad that many people get pregnant before they get married even when they don't want to. So my opinion would be if you get pregnant only marry the other person if you truely love them.